Your NYC Neighbor – is a way of introducing New Yorkers to a rich community of savvy parents. New York is a diverse City bustling with all kinds of families and personalities. We also love to grab tips and recommendations from moms and dads in certain neighborhoods and throughout the 5 Boroughs, and especially people who have created a product, service or site that helps new parents or appeals to children. Meet Erica Komisar, psychoanalyst and author of the book, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters.
Tell us a bit about yourself?
I grew up in Woodbridge, Connecticut a suburb of New Haven. I went to public school in my town. I grew up in a family with four children, all daughters. I was the youngest of the four and much younger than my sisters, my oldest sister is 20 years older than me.
In fact I grew up feeling a bit like an only child because of the age differences. My mother had me later in life and in those days it was a bit unusual. My family was upper middle class with my dad a businessman and entrepreneur with his own furniture business and my mom a stay at home mom for the first 5 years and then a bookkeeper for my dad part-time.
Where do you live?
Now I live in Manhattan with my husband Jordan and my three children on the Upper West Side. I live very close to my practice where I see families for parent guidance and individuals for therapy.
Why do you love your neighborhood?
I love our neighborhood because we walk everywhere and rarely have to get in a car. It is also very lively where we live and near a great deal of cultural things and theater which we love. We have a golden doodle so we love living near the park.
What do you do?
I am a psychoanalyst, parent guidance expert and author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters. I see parents in my practice who may be struggling to understand and to help their children with behavioral or normal developmental issues.
Why do you love what you do?
I love what I do because I can help to make the lives of parents and children so much better. With my individual practice I can see real and substantial changes in the characters and behaviors of patients over the years through analysis. It is a real game changer for so many of my patients. It is a privilege to be a therapist.
My book is about the biological importance of mothers to babies in the first three years and how society devalues mothering which is contributing to a mental health crises in children from a very young age.
What’s ahead for you?
I am currently writing another book which will follow up where my last book left off … helping mothers to continue their good and valuable work into adolescence.